How to Speak So People Really Listen
How to Speak So People Really Listen
Because “Sorry, what were you saying?” isn’t the response we’re going for.
Step 1: Listen First. (Yes, Really.)
The secret to being a great speaker? Be a great listener. It sounds backward, but when people feel heard, they’re more likely to hear you out in return.
Try this:
Don’t interrupt (not even with “just one quick thing”).
Ask clarifying questions.
Reflect back what you hear.
Being present makes your words more powerful.
Step 2: Know Your Point, Then Say It Like You Mean It
If you ramble or second-guess yourself out loud, your message gets lost. Clarity is king.
Get to the point early (respect people’s time).
Use simple, direct language.
Pause for emphasis don’t rush.
You don’t need to be loud to be effective. Quiet confidence? Super compelling.
Step 3: Read the Room Like a Social Ninja
Your audience gives off signals, use them.
Are they nodding, or zoning out?
Do they look confused or captivated?
Has the vibe shifted?
Adjust as you go. If the energy drops, ask a question. Make it feel like a conversation, not a monologue.
Step 4: Make It Relevant! What’s In It for Them?
People care about how your message affects them. Whether you’re pitching an idea or giving feedback, always answer:
“Why should they care?”
Focus on their goals, problems, or needs. Personal relevance = attention earned. Step 5: End with Purpose (Not an Awkward Fade-Out)
No one likes a weak ending. Finish strong by:
Summarising your key message
Suggesting a next step
Ending with a question to keep things going
Think: mic drop, not meh.
Final Thoughts: Great Communication Is a Learnable Skill
You don’t have to be a natural-born speaker to get your message across. Start with listening, add some clarity, and finish with intention.
And if you mess up? That’s what next meetings are for.
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